Dealing with big life transitions

Life has its ups and downs, and sometimes we face huge changes that are difficult to deal with. It could…
Dealing with big life transitions
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Life has its ups and downs, and sometimes we face huge changes that are difficult to deal with. It could be moving house, getting married, or going to live in a different country; maybe its divorce, bereavement, or a major illness. All these things can cause us great stress and disturb our sense of well-being, but there are ways in which we can deal with big life transitions.

Talking it out

Talking to other people about what you are going through is one of the best ways to help you cope with life changes. It could be just a quick chat with friends and family to get their support, or it can be more focused, like joining a support group. Sometimes talking to other people who have been in a similar situation to you can be a great comfort. Join a group that can offer you advice and support while you are coping with your life transitions. For instance, if you have just had a baby, you could join a mom’s group, or if you have lost someone close to you, you could join a bereavement support group.

Be good to yourself

Whatever big life transitions are happening and whatever anxiety you are experiencing, you need to be good to yourself. Changes in your life will take time to get through, so give yourself that time. Take time off work or organize some quiet time for yourself where you can think things through. Try to escape from the pressures you are facing from life transitions, even if it’s just a walk in the park or a coffee break in a cafe. Cook easy meals or order in. Forget the housework and just concentrate on yourself. Take long hot baths and help yourself feel good no matter what you are going through.

Plan for the future

Try to see past where you are at the moment. This can be hard when you have just so much on your plate, but thinking ahead can give you better days to look forward to. If you are going through a painful divorce, consider organizing a shopping trip with your friends or getting away for a weekend. If you are moving house, visualize how it will look when all the work is done and you are settled in. Pick a time in the future–six months, a year–and imagine yourself happy and healthy having gone through big life transitions and come out the other side. Keep this picture of a new and improved you in your mind when the going gets tough.

Whatever changes you are going through, you will get through them. Times may seem hard, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Talk to your friends and family, and get support from other people who have gone through similar life transitions. Take care of yourself and look toward a brighter future.

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