Divorce can be a brutal undertaking. If you’re freshly divorced, you know what I mean. Seldom do couples part without some pangs of guilt, sadness, and loss, but there are those who embrace it and actually celebrate it. With this in mind, take heart if you’re currently going through it. Use it as an inspiration for your own situation if you’re conflicted or feeling down about it. Hell, throw a party and bring a taste of sweetness to the otherwise bittersweet with a divorce cake.
Yes, there is such a thing, and they’ve become wildly popular and are delightfully funny and creative. Some of them are works of art. They are the perfect centerpiece for your party and a reminder during the celebration that the worst is over and, with any luck, the best is yet to come. For the freshly divorced, this is a perfect opportunity to get together with family and friends to embrace finality and put it all behind you in your efforts to move on. Closure can go a long way toward the healing process. If you want, you can get really creative and up the fun level a notch or two by turning your theme party into a costumed theme party for some real laughs. Either way, it’s a great way to blow off steam, and it’s a step in the right direction on the path to your new life.
Laughter is the best medicine
Surrounding yourself with friends, family, and laughter is key. Laughter has been proven to trigger the production of endorphins–the body’s natural, feel-good chemicals–and promotes a sense of happiness and well-being. It’s the physical act of laughing itself and the muscular exertions involved that produce the release of these feel-good chemicals, so go ahead and laugh!
One of the most important things to remember when you’re freshly divorced is to stay busy, surround yourself with people, and try to remain positive. This is crucial. Coping with the aftermath of a divorce is difficult enough, but isolating yourself is a really bad idea, to say the least. Make plans to go to the movies, lunch and dinner dates, or museum or event openings, or even pick up extra hours at work. Anything that keeps your mind occupied and gives you less time to dwell on the negative can be immensely helpful in your endeavors to rebuild your life and move forward. The less time you spend on the negative, the better your chances of coming through the other side relatively unscathed.
Check your baggage at the door
Of course you need to digest the events and process them in a healthy and productive manner. Tamping down emotions and not dealing with them, period, is nonproductive and a recipe for disaster. Unresolved feelings will only resurface and can leave you emotionally crippled and unable to have healthy relationships in the future, with some devastating consequences in the form of baggage. Excess baggage left unchecked will eventually seep into almost every aspect of your life, leading to depression and a whole host of other negative side effects. So, make a stand and nip it in the bud by dealing with it head on in a positive and productive way. If need be, schedule yourself some time with a counselor or hash it out with family and friends. They can make great sounding boards, and you’d be surprised at how willing they are to see you safely through the difficult times in life.
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