When you’re taking care of a little one, you have more to think about than just your future love interests. Before sending an instant message or friending your girlfriend’s hot buddy, review these five tips.
1. Post selective pics
It’s great to be Super Mom. But, when you’re on the hunt for a potential Super Dad, avoid posting pictures of you and the little one. You want to attract someone who is interested in you, not your child. Unfortunately the Internet is full of people with poor judgment and ulterior motives. Remember who is dating here: you, not the child.
2. Keep location vague
When you’re browsing the online dating ads, telling what city you live in is enough. Don’t get overly friendly with someone too soon by saying you live near specific landmarks. This could lead to unwanted stalking from someone you’ve never met in person. Knowing that the two of you live in the same community is enough to keep the conversation going.
3. Where to meet
If your online dating fling seems to be ready for a real-world encounter, keep it public. It’s fine to meet, but leave your child at home with a trusted friend or babysitter. Plan to meet for coffee in a busy cafe or grab lunch at a restaurant where you know a few of the employees. Keep the first date public, short, and kid-free so you can assess the true personality of the person you’re meeting.
4. The announcement
It’s bound to come up in conversation. When the talk turns to past relationships, kids, and future plans, keep the discussion vague at the start. If you have plans to meet your online date in person, be honest about being a mother. Just don’t give too many details. A stranger does not need to know what school your child attends or what soccer team he plays for. This could lead to unwanted encounters if the relationship goes sour.
5. When to meet
So you’ve met in person dozens of times, you’ve ventured out on a few group dates, and the vibe is positive. Is it ok to bring your little one for a daytime meeting at the local park? Maybe. If you feel like you’re ready to introduce your new beau to your family and friends, it’s time to meet the little one too.
But, if you are worried what your mother might think about your new love interest, that’s a good sign that it’s not quite time to be playing family. After all, your child doesn’t understand dating. Be ready for the little one to ask questions–including whether or not this man is a new daddy – when you do take the plunge.