Being a virgin in today’s world

Being a virgin in today's world is not the same as it was in your grandmother's day. The time when being…

Being a virgin in today’s world
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Being a virgin in today’s world is not the same as it was in your grandmother’s day. The time when being pure was taken for granted, and it was the rule rather than the exception. It was considered the norm. But not today. Today, it’s met with gasps, surprise, shock, and utter disbelief almost as if you’re making it up. Not that people look down on it. Far from it. It’s still considered noble, if not a little mind boggling, and the men and women that remain chaste until marriage are to be applauded. But dealing with the pressures of staying chaste — as a woman in particular — are increasingly frustrating for many.

The Pressures

Everywhere you look, from the movies to TV shows to seemingly innocent ads for cosmetics and other innocuous products, you’re bombarded daily with the message sex sells. Through this you’re faced with countless pressures to give up on your beliefs as if they were archaically outdated and you a relic of a bygone era. This can be discouraging, to say the least, but stay strong. You’re the only one that has to live with your inner self, and you know what’s truly important to you and your sense of right and wrong.

Stay Strong

Getting past all the external pressure of keeping your virginity intact is one thing. But dealing with the pressures closer to home can be another. If you are a virgin who is currently dating a man who is not, you know this all too well. Dating a man who is not a virgin can be a veritable minefield fraught with peril at every step. One misstep and before you know it your virtue is gone, toast, nada. Don’t let it happen.


Avoid players at all costs — no matter how charming they come across. Men can be very convincing and conniving when they want something, especially if it comes with bragging rights. Unfortunately, virgins are a hot commodity for a lot of men who may have no sense of honor or concern for your dignity, and they’ll say whatever they have to in order to get what they consider the ultimate prize: your virginity. Beware of men looking for the ultimate conquest and nothing to little more. If he’s not willing to wait until your wedding day, move on, because he’s just not that into you.

A Kindred Spirit

You’re better off finding a like-minded individual with the same core values and commitment to faith and God that are more inline with your own beliefs. If you’re thinking this is easier said than done nowadays, take heart. All is not lost. According to a recent study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control between 2006 and 2008 that included men and women between the ages of 15 and 44, more and more individuals are abstaining from sexual contact of any kind, with a 5% increase in males abstaining over the last 10 years. This is encouraging news, so keep your chin up. There’s hope yet.