Nobody says we have to be married or have a boyfriend to lead a happy, healthy, and productive life. It’s not the 1950s anymore, and we can hold our heads up high and realize our own self worth without having to have a man to define us. It seems more and more women are embracing this fact and running with it. We’re putting off longer and longer the need for marriage and family in place of our careers, leaving those around us with the impression that we’re just too busy for love. But that’s not necessarily the case — or is it?
More women are in the workforce than ever before. As of 2010, women in the United States represented more than half of our national population and both the managerial and professional sectors of the workforce. And this isn’t a passing fad. The New York Times has reported it’s predicted that within a matter of just four years U.S. women will hold the vast majority of professional degrees and doctorates in this country. That’s years of schooling and countless more climbing the employment ladder. So where does that leave time for love? Or does it? Are we just too busy for love, or is just not a priority anymore?
Sorting it Out
In an effort to sort it all out, studies and polls have been conducted to determine the mindset behind this trend of career first and family later among many women too busy for love. Men have been doing it for centuries, but for women it’s a relatively new phenomena, and it’s viewed with a lot of skepticism. When interviewed, many women say they never had any intention of remaining single and sacrificing family for career but time slipped away before they knew it — leaving many with regrets. Not that they’d change their decision to get an education and pursue their degrees or careers, but the fact that they’d lost sight of their need and desire to live a balanced life.
As a woman — especially a Latin woman — we’re still expected to want to have babies and take care of everyone. The concept of women being too busy for love is foreign in our culture. But it’s ultimately up to you. What do you want out of life? Deep down most people — men included — want a balanced life that encompasses all aspects of success, and being a successful father/mother, husband/wife is equally important as their jobs and careers, if not more so. This doesn’t have to be you, though, so don’t let anyone guilt you into feeling badly about wanting something different out of life if it’s not you.
The Benefits of Love
Playing Devil’s advocate for a moment, the benefits of love and not being too busy for love are immeasurable, both physically and mentally. There’s overwhelming proof that love can help reduce stress and lower your blood pressure and can induce feelings of calm and contentment. It contributes to a significant decline in alcohol and substance abuse. People in caring, committed relationships tend to live longer than their single counterparts and experience lower rates of cancer. It also has been shown to reduce the risk of heart disease and promotes faster healing ofwounds and after surgery. For women, one of the biggest benefits is the anti-aging effects of dehydroepiandrosterone or DHEA, an important endogenous steroid hormone. On the bright side, any form of healthy love is beneficial to you. So if you’re too busy for love or just not interested in having a soulmate, friends, family, and pets will do nicely.