Need to get something off your chest? Crying and yelling not working? Then, why not try to write it out? Writing therapy is a term that covers the many ways of using writing as a tool for self-development, and to help you heal. Whether it’s a bad day at work, a childhood trauma, or the fear of something yet to come, writing can help you to express yourself.
Many of us had them as teenagers, some of us still have them now, but, have you written in it your true feelings, or was it a sanitized version? Start now by exploring your emotions in your diary on a daily basis. If the boss made you angry or your partner made you cry, describe how you felt and why you were so upset. Then ask yourself why you were so upset again. Often an incident makes us mad or sad, but what else is going on? If we allow ourselves expression, we can see what else is behind our reactions. Keeping a diary is great writing therapy, and it also serves as a record of your feelings. You might begin to see a pattern of when you feel your lowest, or when you feel your greatest. Does your mood dip if you haven’t eaten breakfast, or skipped lunch and just drank coffee? Diaries and journals can help us log our emotions, and help us see if there are underlying factors to our behavior.
Freeflow writing is a great writing therapy, where you can let out anything that is going on in your head through your pen. Give yourself a time limit, say 10 minutes, and just write anything that comes to mind. It doesn’t matter what it is, or whether it makes sense or not. Just let it all out. If you like, you can come back to it and go through it to see if any issues are showing themselves. Pick out a sentence that you wrote, that feels full of emotion. Use it to start another freeflow writing session, again timed for 10 minutes. Keep working on your writing therapy by looking at that issue over a week or two, until you feel like you have written it out of your system.
This can be a very effective writing therapy for when you have had a conversation, but wished it had gone another way, or when you haven’t been able to get your point across. It’s also a good method to help you talk to someone you have lost, and to say those things that were left unsaid. Imagine you are talking to the person who you still need to speak to. Write down what you would say, and imagine how they would respond. Work through the conversation until you have said what has been on your mind. Let them give the responses you need to hear, while freeing yourself of the words that have been bottled up.
There are many ways to use writing therapy as a healing experience, and it costs hardly anything! Try keeping a diary, use freeflow writing, and write out dialogues when you wish that a conversation had gone a different way. All these techniques can help you express yourself. Pick one today and let it all out.