Sex and Relationship Ambassador, Dr. Pepper Schwartz Offers Tips to Keep the Flame Alive During Sexual Health Awareness Month

SEATTLE–(BUSINESS WIRE)–A declining
percentage
of people describe their marriage as “very happy,”
according to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB),
about 2/3 of women ages 35 – 64 say that their most recent sexual
experience was “extremely pleasurable.” However, compared to men, about
2 to 10 times as many women report that their most recent sexual
experience was “not at all pleasurable.”

“Most couples get together initially because they turn each other on
physically, and the importance of that physical connection does not go
away,” says Pepper Schwartz, PhD., AARP Love and Relationship
Ambassador, and author of amazon.com%2FNormal-Bar-Surprising-Creating-Relationship%2Fdp%2F0307951642&esheet=51411465&newsitemid=20160901005236&lan=en-US&anchor=The+Normal+Bar&index=2&md5=e268e223f4482443c9ee5f664553dbf0″ rel=”nofollow”>The
Normal Bar
. “Over time, having sex helps us repair rifts in a
relationship and reaffirms how special we are to one another. Age and
duration of a relationship are no obstacle if a couple’s norm encourages
and celebrates sexual connection. General happiness, high sexual
frequency, and sexual happiness seem to be a package.”

The study also reported that when vaginal sex hurts, 50% of both men and
women will do nothing, while only 25% of men and women will think to add
a personal lubricant.

Dr. Schwartz’s book describes how men and women want different
things from their partners. While men wish for sexual diversity (new
sexual acts) as their top desire, followed by less passivity (more
passion) and sexual noises (more feedback), women want more foreplay,
more romance, and less predictability.

Consider the following advice:

  • Kiss all over. Start from the top and kiss every bit of real
    estate. Tell your partner which kisses are most thrilling (“Do that
    again!”).
  • Learn your partner’s favorite fantasy and consider it. Just
    sharing that information can be fun.
  • Plan a surprise night. Try something in bed that you’ve never
    done or haven’t done in a long time once a month. Incorporate toys and
    lubricants more frequently such as Replens
    Silky Smooth
    or Trojan
    Lubricants
    for enhanced pleasure in foreplay and comfort during
    intercourse.

“Understanding the wants and needs of your partner will help you become
a better lover, but a couple must be able to communicate,” adds
Schwartz. “Most desire is unspoken, but talk is a vital form of
foreplay.”

Contacts

For Dr. Pepper Schwartz
Brad Ginsburg, 646-964-4446
brad@gcomworks.com